Having a third person joining your sex games can be very useful to bring some spiciness to your bedroom, but not all couples are ready for it.
Getting intimate with your partner, and a friend or a stranger at the same time may be fun, and thrilling. In fact, it is one of the most common male fantasies, and everyday there are more women willing to try it or confessing that they already are into it.
If you, and your partner have decided to have a threesome with another girl/guy, you should consider to establish certain rules if you do not want to ruin your relationship completely.
Who to choose
Selecting the right person that not only will see you, and your partner naked, but that will also join the action can be really tricky.
Is it better to ask a friend or choose a complete stranger? It depends on you. If you go for a friend, make sure is not a really close one, and of course, take into consideration that your friendship will not be the same after having sex together.
Probably the less uncomfortable option would be having a threesome with someone who is not in your social circle.
There are some casual dating websites like Redhotpie or Victoria Milan that give you the possibility to connect with other hot open-minded daters from all over Australia who are looking for enjoying erotic adventures with couples.
The great thing about choosing someone you have met online to whom have a casual affair is that, in the end, either of you is going to get emotional.
If it is the case, you can tackle the problem at source by, first being honest with the third person involved, and then asking him/her to stop seeing each other without feeling that remorse when it happens to be someone that is close to you.
A good idea is to first meet your candidate in person, in a public place to make sure the three of you are attracted, that there may be sexual chemistry, and, of course, in order to avoid meeting a weirdo.
The last thing you should take care of is to check your new lover is STD-free.
How to ask
Whether you are asking a friend or a stranger you are chatting with in a casual dating site, make sure to keep it light, and pop the question at the right moment. Tease the waters first. What you can do is to start talking about how it happened in a movie you recently watched it for example, and then keep talking about it until you reach the point where you feel it is OK to ask him/her to join you, and your partner in bed.
Ground rules
Before getting engaged with it, the three of you should have a talk about what is permitted, and what is not, and what will happen afterwards. You, and you partner can also have like a safe word/phrase to be used if you feel uncomfortable, and in case you want take a break for a while!
The last rule is: do not hesitate to have fun!
If your think threesomes are not enough, and you want to try sex group or partner swapping, you can read our “Advices for first-time swingers“.
