Usually, singles in the search of a serious relationship tend to primarily look for romantic affinity, and then sexual attraction, while people who are up to a casual one prefer to just find a partner who is sexually compatible with them.
In both cases, matching sexually with your partner is key to the relationship success.
Nonetheless, achieving a degree of compatibility when getting intimate with your lover it is not easy.
What is the best way to know if you, and your partner are compatible in bed?
Quality over quantity
Only when you stop thinking about numbers, and start caring about the experience itself, you can say that you actually are sexually compatible.
In spite, the social pressure of constantly need to exhibit the quantity of men or women you got laid in your life -this is especially highlighted when talking about casual relationships- what matters in the end is the quality of your private encounters.
What is the point of bragging about your promiscuous sex life if there may be times where you are not even fully enjoying sex because you are not compatible with a particular guy/girl?
Only when you are sexually compatible with your partner, whether it is something long-term or temporary, you take the most of your intimate adventure.
You are interested in your partner’s satisfaction
Some people believe that casual relationships are mainly about being selfish, and focus on “me, myself, and me again”. In reality, a temporary fling is about having fun without the necessity of expecting something more serious from the relationship, but the goal is that both parts are equally enjoying themselves.
If, when getting intimate, besides focusing on your own pleasure, you also take care of satisfying your partner, it will be easier for you two to connect, and thus, having a greater experience.
Have a similar sex drive, and compatible tastes
Being compatible in bed does not necessarily mean sharing the same tastes. Of course, it is essential to have some common grounds, especially when it comes to more specific erotic practices, like for example both parts enjoying role play or particular toys for example, but in here, opposites attract the same way as couples whose members are similar.
You can be sexually compatible with someone who for example is, like you, a dominant person in bed, but you can also connect with someone, who, unlike you, may be submissive.
What matters most is your sex drive. There may be some differences, sometimes it could be you the one who has a greater sexual appetite, and others, your partner, but the important is that your sex life is balanced.
Open to discussion
As it happens with finding the perfect men, or women, there is no such a thing as the perfect lover. There were times where you would not seek 100% the same things in bed as your partner. If there is communication, if you are open to discuss these differences, leaving embarrassments and criticism to one side, it will be easier to gain that level of sexual compatibility.
