Mistakes to avoid when dating in a nightclub
Last Update : 31 May 2018
Dating in a nightclub has never been easy, even when your idea is to end up having a one-night stand. Approaching a woman in a bar or a disco takes a lot of courage, and confidence.
Bringing out your charm is not enough to seduce a good-looking lady when you are on a night out. There are other factors that can be decisive, and a simple mistake from your side can ruin the chances to reach you goal.
If you want to succeed in your casual dating, make sure you avoid the following errors.
Having a bad attitude, and not approaching the right woman
Making a great first impression is key to casual dating in a nightclub, especially when you introduce yourself.
Appearance it is important if you want to flirt with women with the intention of having a sex affair. This is why you should be well-groomed, and dress casually, but classy.
If you catch her eye with your cut-clean appearance, you will be halfway there.
Your attitude is essential too! The best way to sexually conquering Aussie single women is by showing you are a fun, confident, and fearless guy that really is worth to spend the night with or to initiate a casual relationship. The chemistry would do the rest!
However, many men fail at the first dating step: the moment to approach attractive women. And the reason is because they do not exactly know how to read females’ signs, and often end up seducing the wrong potential partners.
When single women go to a nightclub what they primarily want is to enjoy some time with their friends, having some drinks, and dance until dawn.
Some may be also looking for meeting a good-looking, and nice guy with whom to have a sexual encounter, but you would need to spend some time to discreetly observe that woman’s behaviour, and check if she really is up for it too.
Make sure there is mutual attraction by making eye contact for example, before deciding to approach her.
Not controlling your emotions when talking to her
Getting close to a woman that has grabbed your attention requires bringing out some of your best seduction tricks. Attractive women at nightclubs are constantly approached by scores of men trying to flirt with them. You may have a lot of competitors, but what matters is that you are the one that fits on what she is looking for in a casual partner.
You have to find the right balance when catching her attention, and talking to her for the first time. To break the ice, you can bring out the comedy man in you! However, many guys rely too much on jokes in order to reduce the nerves. Overusing your sense of humour can be one of the biggest mistakes because, in spite these women may not want to have something serious, making silly comments all the time can be a turn-off.
Being confident will undoubtedly help you seduce attractive women, but some men mix up confidence with arrogance. You would need to play your cards wisely. Looking too desperate for sex will result in the opposite, but acting like you do not care about her, and that you are that kind of unachievable guy who only has eyes for highly attractive girls, will also drive her away.
The key is to interact naturally, show some interest, but do not intimidate her. Pay attention to her, what she says, and how she behaves when is close to you, and act the same way. Play it cool, and talk, and joke with her colleagues as well. Once again, you do not want to look like a lonesome guy begging for some physical affection, but instead, like a charming man who is nice to everyone, and can easily have a conversation with anyone he meets. A really good catch!
Having conversations about your ex or about how many women you have slept with
Talking to women in a nightclub is probably one of the hardest things to do for many single men. In addition to may not knowing how to approach a girl or how to make the conversation flow, many men have to contend with loud music, which, very often, reduces their chances to show the interesting guys in them!
There is not like an official dating guide that provides specific topics to chat about when flirting with ladies in a nightclub, however, many men, when a woman they just have met asks them why they are single, tend to end up talking about their ex-girlfriends. This is a huge error! Why someone would want to have playmate that is still carrying an emotional bag? Remember that casual dating is all about having fun with no commitments, and leaving feelings to one side.
Another classic mistake is to brag about the scores of females you have been in bed with while being single. It is true that singledom is about being open to choose if you want to be unattached, in a serious relationship or you prefer something casual. It is also about the freedom to choose who you want to date, deciding who could be your perfect partner (serious or casual).
Despite, it is important to be straightforward, and set the cards upon the table from the moment you start talking privately, basically by confessing that you are a free-spirit, giving the perception that you just want to have sex, but really do not care with who, mainly with any women you cross paths with, will close the doors for any chances to get intimate with that particular woman you are trying to seduce.
Treat her with respect! That particular night focus on, and only show interest in her, and forget about any other sexy women. You may have time for them at some other point, but, in the meantime, enjoy your time with that special woman!